What is your image of “Charisma” ?
My image of charisma is people who have :
* big impact.
* it factor
* a shining ( star ? ) quality
* attractive
One day, I noticed that good looking and charisma don’t
always come together.
Beauty is in the eyes of beholder , but I feel there are
people who most everyone would agree they are handsome or beautiful whether or
not they fit their taste of beauty or not.
I understand many people who are good looking have
charisma, but what about people who are considered as average looking and yet
have strong charisma?
So I’m interested in what are the qualities that makes
some people who are not considered great looking, still have charisma.
For example,
And this is my view of course,
When I was a child, the first time I ever saw photos of
the Beatles members, I thought George Harrison is the most handsome among
them.
And Paul McCartney
had a baby face and cute. No wonder many ladies loved him. ( when he was around
nineteen to late twenties )
But for charisma, I felt John Lennon had the most.
For another English rock band, Queen,
I felt Roger Taylor and Brian May and John Deacon are all handsome and looked like princes.
I felt Roger Taylor and Brian May and John Deacon are all handsome and looked like princes.
But for charisma, Freddie
Mercury had the most.
In Japan, there were always idol stars in every
generation, and especially 1970S, and 1980S , these were called idol
generations, and there were so many idols stars who often appeared in TV “ top10 music/song” every week.
After 1990S, these best hit music/songs shows started
decreasing and therefore the public did not have much opportunities to watch
many idol stars on TV like during the 1970S and 1980s.
My generation in which I was often watching these idol
stars on TV was the 1970S and early 1980S ‘s.
Most of the male top idol stars were really nice looking
plus charisma so I understand it .
And for the ladies there were very beautiful
ladies singers too, but the interesting thing however is that these ladies were
not the top idol popular stars.
Instead, the ones that were the most popular ladies
singers were actually average, and I felt their face itself was not basic
beautiful well-balanced face like the others.
And I’m saying this even though I was a fan for them.
But it was so strange because despite this, I always felt
these top idols stars looked stunning and had a huge impact.
When there were many idols stars on the stage , I was
always looking for the top idol popular stars more than the other more
beautiful looking idol stars.
And I couldn’t figure out why .
And recently, I came across a website which has some
information about two of these top idols stars ( one for the 1970S “M" and one
for the 1980S “S” ) ,
And there were some common things these two stars had been
doing.
What both of them were doing was, they were looking at
themselves at the mirror , and saying something to themselves.
One of the 1970S’s top idol stars “M” was kind of a cool
attractive lady.
She was told by the president of the music production
company that she belonged with, to say something like,
“ I’m attractive.
I’m a main actress in a movie. “
Many times every day, like an affirmation.
And reality reflected this.
She was a singer, but she was
also in many movies as a main actress.
She is a legendary star as one of the top idols in 1970s
in Japan.
As for the 1980S top idol star “S”,
She was kind of a girly girl type of lovely young lady
when she started.
Seems like she was saying
“ I’m pretty. “ at the mirror so
many times everyday.
She also often made a wish what she wanted before going to
bed.
Every song she sang always became top hit , one of the
reasons I felt was besides the great song which fit her image, her unique high
voice and singing was quite a big impact.
Many music composers wanted to make a song for her because
it was always guaranteed success if she sang at that time.
I didn’t know about it until recently, but at that time my
image of her was she is getting anything she wants and felt like the world is
turning for her.
And sometimes I wondered why ?
“M” and “S” ‘s
affirmations worked amazing.
“M” retired when she decided to get married with
her partner actor who was always in her movies.
And her husband published a book a year ago, which said they have never got any arguments or trouble between them during their marriage life. They have two sons who also grew well.
And her husband published a book a year ago, which said they have never got any arguments or trouble between them during their marriage life. They have two sons who also grew well.
Successful marriage.
We’ve never able to see her anywhere anymore
because her decision of “retired “ was so strong. And this also made public many
respect.
“ S” is still keeping her charisma , even more and more
beautiful. Her beautiful young skin is unbelievable at the age of 51.
Anyway, my point here is using subconscious mind,
believing who you are, doing affirmation or whatever methods, it becomes
reality.
In this method, repeating affirmation words so many times
may be the key.
I understand how
making self- image is important to be a person who you wish to be.
And what I realized is anyone can have “ Charisma “ if you
continue believing you have charisma.
According to the information what I’ve read about Freddie
Mercury, he was often looking and posing at the mirror to make sure the image he was
projecting was what he wanted .
And he acted like he is a star even when he was
not famous and successful yet.
People who have huge “ Charisma ” may love to get attention
and these people who keep affirming or
making self-image , and take care of their looks and image , their self-image
becomes reality.
There is another story about one of my heroes,
I’ve been a big fan of the music rock group The Alfee
since 1983, since their first huge hit with their music.
It took 10 years to get their first huge hit since they
started.
Musician’s world may be one of the most difficult to get success. But
amazingly they never gave up.
I have a book written by one of the Alfee members who also
is the composer of their music, his name is Toshihiko Takamizawa and there is
an interesting thing he did which is based on law of attraction, but I think he
didn’t know that it was based on that.
In 1982, during their first 9 years of their career with
no hit , he saw their article with a photo of them in a magazine.
And he felt shocking impression seeing the photo of them,
especially himself.
“ Who is that ! “
and
he got the inspiration, a feeling that this band will never sell .
What he saw in the photo of himself was far from the image
he wished to be as a rock star.
From the photo he could feel there is a small tiny 4.5 tatami room
apartment with a young man ( himself ) who is dreaming of success, but does not appear to have any hope to get
success .
Stars should not have the
image such a poor image.
He felt he need to change his look to be like a star who
has charisma, have something which has big impact.
This decision made many other changes in his
approach as well, also changed his motivation to get a hit and success.
Approximately one year later from that day, he made his first huge hit.
And after that every song, 4
or 5 songs also got a huge hit as well.
He is a handsome man, and I felt he has a charisma and had
a big impact, but when I saw his past photo until their first hit song, I
didn’t feel he had charisma, same as he felt.
I understand that making self-image plus care for the
looks can make charisma.