Mystery of Charisma

What is your image of “Charisma” ?

My image of charisma is people who have :

* big impact.

* it factor

* a shining ( star ? ) quality

* attractive

One day, I noticed that good looking and charisma don’t always come together.

Beauty is in the eyes of beholder , but I feel there are people who most everyone would agree they are handsome or beautiful whether or not they fit their taste of beauty or not.

I understand many people who are good looking have charisma, but what about people who are considered as average looking and yet have strong charisma?  

So I’m interested in what are the qualities that makes some people who are not considered great looking, still have charisma.

For example,

And this is my view of course,

When I was a child, the first time I ever saw photos of the Beatles members,  I thought George Harrison is the most handsome among them.

And Paul McCartney had a baby face and cute. No wonder many ladies loved him. ( when he was around nineteen to late twenties )

But for charisma, I felt John Lennon had the most.  

For another English rock band, Queen, 

I felt Roger Taylor and Brian May and John Deacon are all handsome and looked like princes.

But for charisma, Freddie Mercury had the most. 

In Japan, there were always idol stars in every generation, and especially 1970S, and 1980S , these were called idol generations, and there were so many idols stars who often appeared in TV “ top10 music/song” every week.

After 1990S, these best hit music/songs shows started decreasing and therefore the public did not have much opportunities to watch many idol stars on TV like during the 1970S and 1980s.

My generation in which I was often watching these idol stars on TV was the 1970S and early 1980S ‘s.

Most of the male top idol stars were really nice looking plus charisma so I understand it . 

And for the ladies there were very beautiful ladies singers too, but the interesting thing however is that these ladies were not the top idol popular stars. 

Instead, the ones that were the most popular ladies singers were actually average, and I felt their face itself was not basic beautiful well-balanced face like the others. 

And I’m saying this even though I was a fan for them.

But it was so strange because despite this, I always felt these top idols stars looked stunning and had a huge impact.

When there were many idols stars on the stage , I was always looking for the top idol popular stars more than the other more beautiful looking idol stars.

And I couldn’t figure out why .

And recently, I came across a website which has some information about two of these top idols stars ( one for the 1970S “M" and one for the 1980S  “S” ) ,

And there were some common things these two stars had been doing.

What both of them were doing was, they were looking at themselves at the mirror , and saying something to themselves. 

One of the 1970S’s top idol stars “M” was kind of a cool attractive lady. 

She was told by the president of the music production company that she belonged with, to say something like,  

 “ I’m attractive. I’m a main actress in a movie. “ 

Many times every day, like an affirmation. 

And reality reflected this. 

She was a singer, but she was also in many movies as a main actress.  

She is a legendary star as one of the top idols in 1970s in Japan.  

As for the 1980S top idol star “S”, 

She was kind of a girly girl type of lovely young lady when she started.

Seems like she was saying 

“ I’m pretty. “ at the mirror so many times everyday.

She also often made a wish what she wanted before going to bed.

Every song she sang always became top hit , one of the reasons I felt was besides the great song which fit her image, her unique high voice and singing was quite a big impact.

Many music composers wanted to make a song for her because it was always guaranteed success if she sang at that time.

I didn’t know about it until recently, but at that time my image of her was she is getting anything she wants and felt like the world is turning for her. 

And sometimes I wondered why ?

 “M” and “S” ‘s affirmations worked amazing. 

 “M”  retired when she decided to get married with her partner actor who was always in her movies.

And her husband published a book a year ago,  which said they have never got any arguments or trouble between them during their marriage life. They have two sons who also grew well. 

Successful marriage.  

 We’ve never able to see her anywhere anymore because her decision of “retired “ was so strong. And this also made public many respect.  

“ S” is still keeping her charisma , even more and more beautiful. Her beautiful young skin is unbelievable at the age of 51.

Anyway, my point here is using subconscious mind, believing who you are, doing affirmation or whatever methods, it becomes reality.

In this method, repeating affirmation words so many times may be the key.

I understand  how making self- image is important to be a person who you wish to be.

And what I realized is anyone can have “ Charisma “ if you continue believing you have charisma.

According to the information what I’ve read about Freddie Mercury, he was often looking  and posing at the mirror to make sure the image he was projecting was what he wanted . 

And he acted like he is a star even when he was not famous and successful yet. 

People who have huge “ Charisma ” may love to get attention and these people who keep affirming or making self-image , and take care of their looks and image , their self-image becomes reality.

There is another story about one of my heroes,

I’ve been a big fan of the music rock group The Alfee since 1983, since their first huge hit with their music.

It took 10 years to get their first huge hit since they started. 

Musician’s world may be one of the most difficult to get success. But amazingly they never gave up.

I have a book written by one of the Alfee members who also is the composer of their music, his name is Toshihiko Takamizawa and there is an interesting thing he did which is based on law of attraction, but I think he didn’t know that it was based on that. 

In 1982, during their first 9 years of their career with no hit , he saw their article with a photo of them in a magazine.

And he felt shocking impression seeing the photo of them, especially himself. 

 “ Who is that !  “  

 and he got the inspiration, a feeling that this band will never sell .  

What he saw in the photo of himself was far from the image he wished to be as a rock star. 

From the photo he could feel there is a small tiny 4.5 tatami room apartment with a young man ( himself ) who is dreaming of success,  but does not appear to have any hope to get success .   

Stars should not have the image such a poor image.

He felt he need to change his look to be like a star who has charisma, have something which has big impact.   

This decision made many other changes in his approach as well, also changed his motivation to get a hit and success.  

Approximately one year later from that day,  he made his first huge hit.

And after that every song, 4 or 5 songs also got a huge hit as well. 

He is a handsome man, and I felt he has a charisma and had a big impact, but when I saw his past photo until their first hit song, I didn’t feel he had charisma, same as he felt.  

I understand that making self-image plus care for the looks can make charisma.