Today, I would like to talk about the shocking truth of the psychological reason why some people don't make you feel good and why you don't like those people.
Self-improvement is often one of my favorite topics to read since when I was around 20, when I was feeling I want to improve my life.
When I was about 20 years old, there was no internet and no personal computer, so I learned it from books which were written by people who achieved their dream life.
The kind of books I read were mainly written by my favorite musician and a supermodel I loved, and these books were more like biography books, rather than self improvement guru's books .
Because they were showing the example as a role model through their life and achieving their dreams, rather than teaching about self improvement topics.
Then later, I started reading books by Neal Donald Walsh, Robert Anthony, Anthony Robbins, Joe Vitale, Brian Tracy, Napoleon Hill, Wallace D Wattles, Rhonda Byrne, Deepak Chopra, Denise Coates, Pierre Franckh etc..
Nowadays, self improvement experts are everywhere in internet and we can find tons of information about it without buying paper books.
Actually, most of the information are similar, which are based on the law of attraction and oneness, we can know once we learned about it.
Just their writing style and tone of voices are different based on their personalities.
I liked most of these experts' books and their information on internet, and I had never had issue to read their information.
However,
Recently, I found a website /blog which belongs with self improvements topic.
There are many articles which were written by the blogger.
and in the beginning I downloaded the blogger's ebooks, because I found there is interesting information which the blogger got from somewhere.
I was interested in some of the articles, so I subscribed to the newsletter and started following the blogger's twitter account.
However, within one month, I decided to unsubscribe the newsletter and also unfollowed the twitter.
Why ?
Because I noticed that while reading the articles, I often felt uncomfortable and had bad feeling.
I could hear the tone of the blogger's voice through the writing, and the way how the blogger was writing bothered me and made me annoyed.
So I stopped seeing the blog for a while.
and a few month later, I was wondering why that blogger's writing voice made me feel bad, and was curious to check the articles again.
The blogger had been updating the blog post about every 3 days, so there were many new articles since then.
Then when I saw the topics of all the articles in one page, I was already feeling uncomfortable.
Then I opened one of the articles and started reading it.
I could feel my feeling was getting worse.
I knew I have issue with the writing style.
One of the reasons was the blogger often uses the words
" Should " .
and
" Don't do .................".
" You should never do ................ "
" Why you should do ................. "
I found myself I do not like to hear those words much.
The blogger was also using these words in the twitter as well.
This is why I was feeling annoyed and unfollowed the twitter.
This writing style sounds like the blogger is pushing his/her opinion when using these words too much, even whether the blogger means to or not.
and also I felt like the blogger was often putting up him/herself by putting down someone , by pointing out the person's unfavorable action and behavior, by saying " I would never do like that. "
This kind of writing is self promotion, so it's not convincing .
It's strange however, when some people use these same words, it doesn't bother me, like
Einstein 's famous quote below,
"A man should look for what is and not for what he thinks should be. "
by Albert Einstein
This quote has conviction to me and I really like it.
I asked my husband about it, why I felt so uncomfortable with the blogger's tone of voice of writing style.
He said,
" yes, the writing sounds bossy."
and it seems to be how these words were used.
He was not so interested in the articles so he didn't care much about it.
and I realized what is very important for me is the expert or guru's writing voice, writing style, plus their original idea and their own experience since many of self improvement information are similar.
There are of course match or not match depending on the expert's personality.
No matter how the expert is knowledgeable about the topic I want to know, if the expert's writing style doesn't make me feel good or comfortable to read, it doesn't make me feel conviction.
I think others may feel the same way depending on the expert.
How they teach others, shows their personality.
Also I feel great experts are not so bossy and pushing their belief to others and are not to trying to convince others.
Neal Donald Walsh's spirit guide also said that people are learning things in their own way and time and it will come to them when they are ready to learn by themselves. so no one needs to push and convince about it.
I'm not only talking about humans, who are now in the 3rd dimension , but also, some gurus who are able to channel aliens who are of high frequency level from the 4th dimension and 5th dimension as well.
Most people who live on the planet Earth which is the 3rd dimension, the thinking and ideas have limitations and are judging each other, so I usually get more conviction from reading gurus who channel the words and writings of aliens or high spirits who are from 4th and 5th dimension.
And also of spirit guides from high dimensions.
Shocking truth
And today, when I was reading one of my recent favorite websites which is from a Japanese channeler who shares the messages from an alien who lives in the fifth dimension.
The alien A was telling that when someone makes you irritated, you are seeing a part of yourself which has the part you do not like and you are trying not to be like that.
You do not want to be like that so you are careful for it, but when you saw someone is doing what you are trying not to do, you react for it sensitively.
This is why it makes you irritated and bothers you.
So, it means I'm a bossy person originally ?
But I don't like that part of me so I try not to be like that.
This is why that blogger's writing voice bothers me ?
LOL
I laughed alot after knowing about that.
I actually better to say thank you to that blogger to make me to notice about myself.
I gave the example of the blogger in this post, but whenever we all face this kind of situation, we are seeing ourselves through the people who make us irritated.
Problem is not the person who makes you feel irritated and you don't like, but it's about yourself.
The emotion we each own is coming from ourselves.
If I am blaming that person, and tell that person it's that person's problem and not mine, then I will just repeat it and not leaning anything.
I've read similar information from another alien called Bashar who is channeled by Darryl Anka.
I also heard about it a long time ago somewhere, but I forgot about it.
I value that alien's message as well as the alien Bashar's message.
They both use different words when they tell their messages , and different style, but what they are saying is actually the same.
Because we are all one.
I have to realize that everyone I meet is a mirror of me, and they have same frequency level as me in that moment.
Since I know about it, I was paying attention for it in my daily life.
When I received an email from my customer for my work, from my business partner, from my friends, I did notice it's all reflection of my previous thoughts and present emotion.
When I'm feeling grateful, I received a message which was thanked by someone for my service or behavior.
When my feeling and thought was negative, I attracted the same kind of energy.
Everyone you meet every moment is a mirror of you whether you like it or not.
Negative emotion and thought attract same kind of energy as well.
We get what we gave.
Solution is to raise our frequency, so that we will not notice or care much for the energy which is different frequency level.
The alien A also said that, if your frequency is negative ( low ) and you meet a negative type person and then if you escape from that kind of person from one place, you will meet similar types of people again and again, as long as you stay in that negative frequency.
Best solution is to say thank you to that person for realizing about yourself, for realizing the part that you don't like about yourself.
When you are criticizing someone about something you don't like, it's same as you are criticizing that part of yourself .
So, if you get criticism from people, you do not need to take it seriously and personally.
Because they are screaming about themselves.
If you react to their criticisms, it shows you are pulled down to their frequency level.
The alien A also said that on this planet earth, most of the energy is very low and heavy,
and besides, the heavy slow vibrational energy ( low frequency level ) is very powerful and strong ,
so it's easy for your vibrational energy to be pulled down to their same level.
If we all want to live with joy and happiness all the time, learning how not to be influenced by all the heavy slow, low frequency level energy is the most challenging thing.
and when we want to criticize someone, you are seeing the part you have yourself,
so best solution is accept the part which you don't like without judging,
and then change your behavior to what you prefer,
and give yourself the unconditional love.
This is why giving unconditional love is very important to everything going well in our life.
Through this emotion I got from the blogger ( the self improvement site's blogger ), I noticed I was not giving myself unconditional love for that part of me.
For about more messages and teachings from the alien, I will write more about it in my later post .